Has anyone else read this?
From GQ magazine?


http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1225066/Nicole-Kidman-reveals-love-life-kinky-opens-strange-sexual-fetish-encounters.html


I found this comment so weird....

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I’d just given birth, so I was like “OK, I’m [still] a woman – I want to do this film. And I do have a life other than simply feeding this baby”,’ she said. ‘I think when you give birth you get itchy to get back to work and you want to feel life still goes on.’

Im just wondering what other mothers out there were itching to get back to work?...

I just found this entire interview so strange, the things that were said in it...

Yeah, at first read it seems a little 'off?' (for want of a better word), I guess.

From my experience, I found I needed more than my babies a while after they were born.  Some people are fine with total baby devotion and nothing more, and others like me love that baby, but need more personally - like people contact for instance - to feel more than what being a mother provides - you want your own self-worth back, and not just in relation to the baby.

I think this is what she meant when she made the unfortunate comment of 'life goes on' - meaning for herself, not only as a mum, but a person who's valuable to herself and others also.

I'd assume Keith wld feel the same - there's no way he wld want to sacrifice the career he's loved for years and worked so hard at, just because he's a new dad.  But a mix of the two (career & baby) is a good mix for both of them.

TRASH ... FAKE, starting with the enhancements of Nicole's cover picture, followed by a total exploitation in words ...

I simply won't buy into the media's deliberate attempts at degrading all that is great about what Nicole and Keith represent ...

S.L.E.A.Z.E.  M.A.G.S - just won't get my hard-earned money ...  

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Thanks Shirt for your perspective on that.....
I found your thoughts to be very enlightening.
I did find it hard to understand how someone could feel that way, but your explaination helped a lot in making me understand.

I was the complete opposite...I went back to work for half a day, and couldn't bare to parted from my baby...I was desperate for a child, to have a child of my very own was something I'd never thought I would have.
The thought of being away and not sharing in his life, was just something I couldn't contemplate...I just felt that noone else could give my child the love and attention he deserved!
  I must agree with you though, that you do need adult conversation, and contact, but I guess I found that in other ways...
again I thankyou for sharing your insight about this...

And Colleen, I agree with you... and can't understand why Nicole posed and gave this interview, It's a mens magazine... guess it was all done for publicity for the new movie?

I'd like to hear the taped version of that interview first and foremost ... Far more honest then the written word ...

Not that what Nicole supposedly said is anything more then what other women and wives reveal about their lives in their work places ... I've heard a lot in my working life ... It's just that what was published is not exactly what we expect Nicole to divulge, but what the majority love to feed off, when anyone famous lets their veil down on their private life ...  

It's not so much what Nicole does or even says that matters to me, or even what medium she uses for that purpose, it's the whether the product is fact or an exageration  ...

Good God, anything is news in the life of the rich and famous ... I just perfer to take most of it with a good dose of salts ...

Perhaps Nic's "raw and dangerous" comment could be discussed, along with the new tattoo with Keith at his Aussie greet and meets ...  

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Please look at the source of this news. This is not a reputable publication at all. Nobody respect this publication at all. 99.9% of the news they have are trash and always misquoting or twisting what was really said. If you will go to British GQ website and read the quote from the individual who interviewed Nicole - it is far from what this publication would like you to believe. Nicole was interviewed live on so many times about Sunday Rose, those who have watched those interviews know how she feels about Sunday Rose. She will always say that family comes first (Keith and Sunday Rose) and that comes straight from her mouth.

Nobody had seen  or read the whole interview. We don't know what was real or not. Even when an actor or actress is interviewed for a magazine - the whole truth really depend so much on the interviewer and magazine where it is published. The interviewer can always do their own interpretation or misquote what was really said. That's why  I don't put too much credibility on things that I read  unless the interviewer or the writer is highly respected in their field, as well as the publication. This has been my principle in life - not to believe everything I read or hear unless it is the individual itself that I hear said it or a very respected source. This world is full of people, who are opportunists - especially in Keith and Nicole professions - whatever sell, whatever brings money - it does not matter if there is truth to it or not - that's life . Yu have to learn how to swim to survive. As what Keith said, you learn how to run with it.

Happy and Giggles I agree with both of you... consider the source of the article... 99.9% trash........

From CMT.com:

What Does "Extreme Love" Mean to Nicole Kidman?
Posted: November 5th, 2009 at 2:13 pm  |  By: Alison Bonaguro

    She's married to Keith Urban. So when I see that there's a story in the British GQ magazine about Nicole Kidman opening up about "extreme love," I assume she means she is just very much into Keith Urban. She's an actress, after all. So, of course, she's going to be dramatic and say things like, "Give me risk, danger, darkness!" She's not just going to say, "Keith's great. We're in love." And, yes, the article does also dig a little deeper and gets Kidman to reveal that she's explored strange sexual fetishes. (As if the corset and thigh-high boots she's wearing on the cover didn't make that crystal clear.) But she also goes on to describe her marriage to Urban by saying, "It's a very extraordinary, adventurous place to be: incredibly raw, incredibly dangerous, and you're very much out at sea. You're exposed. You could drown." So to me, the story is one that gave Kidman the opportunity to tell it like it is. And while it's easy to hone in on the one sentence about strange sexual fetish stuff (which might have been nothing more than wearing a blindfold during sex, and who hasn't done that?), the bigger picture is that she really digs Keith Urban.
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    SmartMove

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"Give me risk, danger, darkness!" She's not just going to say,

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incredibly raw, incredibly dangerous, and you're very much out at sea. You're exposed. You could drown."

huh ??? Keith is a risk?....and darkness?....and danger????

hmmmmmmmmmmm the more I read about what she says about Keith.. the less I like it...

Teena,

I believe the raw and dangerous comment was made two years ago, when Nicole was interviewed after the months that Keith spent in rehab - referring mainly to the the feellings of uncertainty within their very new marriage after going through such an experience ie., all out at sea, very exposed, you could drown ...

Keith was asked about that same thing by Richard Wilkins last week on the Today Show and KU alequantly and with pride expressed his feelings  about the person and character that is Nicole and what he believes she feels about him and of course what they both feel about the fact they are now a family ...

IF THAT'S WHAT'S IMPORTANT TO THEM THEN THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS TO ME ...

The risk, dark, dangerous comment I believe was said in an interview with Nicole when she was between marriages and having so called random relationships, that didn't transpire ...

Then of course Nicole met Keith ... I don't believe that Nicole was talking in the here and now ... Perhaps more so her lessons and experiences in life that have led her to a much better place, with a man she trusted enough to stand beside in his hour of need and that  he is ever so grateful she did ...







 

I'll admit that I read the 'raw and dangerous' comment a different way.  In the same breath she talks about being "very much out at see", "exposed", "could drown".  My reading was that she was talking about putting emotions on the line and taking the risk that she could be hurt again.  In my opinion, the 'raw and dangerous' is about trusting yourself to be open and that your partner won't let you 'drown'.  It's not, in my opinion about their sex life at all.  

So Colleen, your saying that all the quotes being used in that magazine are all just old one's rehashed and taken from past interviews with other magazines?....


I think I need to just ignore stuff that Nicole says, because it always seems so weird and twisted,and double edged and I always have difficulty in understanding why she would think and say such things...

I just guess I have a different perspective and thoughts on the ways of life than she does. And express them differently...

Everyone in this world is different... it would be a boring world if we all thought and did the same things.

As I said Teena, I would prefer to hear the interview then read the written word ... I just don't read between lines very well, it leaves too much room for interpretation, and I love the openness and honesty of seeing and hearing someone express themselves ...

Nicole has spoken these words before and from what I saw of her previous television interviews she answered the questions honestly, not only to express that she was more then aware of what she was doing post and pre Keith, but rather taking on board the lessons from her experiences ...

I certainly don't see Nicole as some doubled edged sword and I don't believe Keith is a "stupid boy", or that they are putting on some kind of act as man, wife and family ... The photo's of them since their marriage doesn't exude anything more then what most relationships reveal or deal with on a daily basis ... I actually think they're making the most of a damned good thing, for them ...

The outcome for the Urban's is not much different then any of us - Today is something we can only assume, the forecast for what will happen tomorrow and forever are simply left to CHOICES, HOPE AND FAITH ...

Yes indeed we are different ... But, we all do and say things that we contradict and it's possible that we can even totally change our minds a full 360, and then again, as we learn, grow and age ... WISDOM comes with experience and what's important is excepting we're just not perfect, experts or exact for that matter ... It's in the learning from ourselves and others and not beating ourselves and others up for being or doing what we deem is  wrong ... Because there certainly will be more then enough people beating up everyone, without our contribution ...  

Hopefully if nothing else, with grace and knowing that we too have made mistakes and living our lives is not always easy, sometimes a big gamble even ... We've all had our hit and misses ... Some we're thankful for, others we wish we could have changed, some we leave behind us ... THE CHOICES we live to regret, THE DREAMS AND HOPES of a better life, then life deals us something good or something bad, to test our staying power ...

Take care ... Colleen  

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To me, Nicole often seems to portray her self as intellectual ... but I find her interviews (live and written) difficult to follow and often, inconsistent. I guess we need to read the whole thing to understand what she is trying to say.

The comment : "I do have a life other than simply feeding this baby”,’ she said." is not flattering. If she said this, that disturbs me. It does not paint a very positive picture of Nicole as a woman or a mother.

I hope when the entire article comes out, we find out that it is somehow taken out of context. But it is hard to imagine such a statement being made by any mother within a few weeks of the birth of a child, regardless of the context.  

I also think that at some point a 42 yr old mother of 3, who is also a UNIFEM ambassador on women's issues, should avoid photoshoots that sexualize and objectify women. The GQ cover does not do a thing for women's issues.

I know I'll be attacked for my opinion, but I can't help but state what I think. Hopefully the full article will help clarify why she would say some of the things she did about marriage to Keith and about her feelings regarding motherhood.

HPT ...

Unfortunately, many women and men say far worse then "that" statement, especially about their feelings and frustrations in raising  child/ren ...

In fact, I only spoke to a very intelligent women this weekend, who is escaping a "bad situation" ... She unapologetically and openly said to me she totally disowned her son when he was born and the "whole experience" was more then she could bare ... Needing to except and learn how to be "motherly" was a difficult thing along with the acceptance of the changes in her body, having a baby can alter your mind, but she did endure with the help of those around her who didn't judge, but showered her with support ...

The same now, as her marriage has crumbled, but her relationship with her son is strong and it will need to be, as she takes on the responsibility of motherhood and a huge change of direction in her life ...

Along with that situation, as with many family situations that I confront every working day, I can assure you, nothing ceases to amaze me, with what comes out of the mouths of mothers, fathers and guardians in general ...

Being a working mother myself, there have been times where being with my husband and children is my sanctuary ... And times when sanity means being in the solice of just me,  where I'd love to hide ... But, not quite permanently ...

Sometimes, I let my tongue take charge of my thoughts, but they are not always where my true feelings ly ... Unfortunately, the old thinking before you speak is an art most humans rarely perfect, although I do like the more spontaneous type - regardless of the trouble it leads ...  

I don't know Nicole Kidman at all, and those who do, rarely say a bad word against her ...  Surely, if Keith was disturbed by the sensationalism this has caused - He'd be taking time off, to put things right ???

He certainly isn't doing that, just yet ...

I just love all the attention Keith is getting at the moment and the wave of success he will ride home to Australia to excite all his fans in a few weeks ... I hope his fans in NSW are seeking out tickets for the ARIA's ...

CHEERS ...    

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or that they are putting on some kind of act as man, wife and family ... The photo's of them since their marriage doesn't exude anything more then what most relationships reveal or deal with on a daily basis ... I actually think they're making the most of a damned good thing, for them ...

Im with you here Colleen...
I don't for one moment think that their marriage is some kind of act... or pretend marriage...
Noone that was pretending could have written that last album, that Keith wrote...filled with mushy love.

Colleen, your right...
people do say and do things, and change their minds to suit the circumstances, and events...
I know you say you like her honesty, and that there is many people that say that they care about themself before their child.
But honestly how many say it in a publication that will reach many people?...

and especially when you are living on the image that your a desperate woman wanting nothing more in this world than to have your own child, and live a humble family life?..in the country and raise goats and lamas.
But then the other image that is being flaunted is a tough dominate person, that wants to be recognized as independant from her child.

This is why I say it appears doubled edged Colleen.
Everything always appears conflicting, And as Hpt said....

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I also think that at some point a 42 yr old mother of 3, who is also a UNIFEM ambassador on women's issues, should avoid photoshoots that sexualize and objectify women. The GQ cover does not do a thing for women's issues.

I also found this to be bizzar, especially when it was only two weeks ago, she was standing up saying Hollywood project women as sexual objects.

Imagine if Keith did a photo shoot for a magazine, sitting there with bottles of beer wine and a bong. He would be crucified for that! He just wouldn't do it...because it represents the image he is trying to escape, and it is not the person he is now...
He made his choice to be a family man, to clean himself up, and enjoy life with his wife and daughter, and performing music..

Like I said... IREALY think I need to ignore the stuff that Nicole does and says... in the way of publications and publicity. Because none of it makes any sense at all to me...
Its a bit like Schizophrenia... doing and saying different things each week, that contradict each thing.

I don't mean this post to come out as a bashing exercise against Nicole..For the life of me, I just can't make head nor tails of what she stands for, or what she believes in.
As you said Colleen, maybe she is just someone that changes her mind all the time.

And I truly think I am best just to ignore any statements she is suppose to have made, and just be happy that Keith is in love and living his dream!,.And I hope his next album is one that I will enjoy.

"Like I said... IREALY think I need to ignore the stuff that Nicole does and says" ...

Teena,

It's not that you should ignore Nicole Kidman, but more so not allow her to influence your obvious devotion of Keith Urban the musician, who you once felt was worthy enough for you to start a website in his name ...

The musician you have such an affinity with, irrespective of his short comings, which many have critisized and ridiculed him for over the years, not so disimilar to his wife really, and for all his misgivings you felt he was worthy enough to not only forgive, but to support ...  

Keith doesn't really need anyone to understand his wife or why he loves and needs her, as he obviously does, and they seem happy enough - THANK GOD ...

Keith would be hoping his fans respect him for his music and his entertainment ability, and Teena you are one person who understands that more than most ... I'm hoping you have not lost that ...

You've stated your disatisfaction with the Defying Gravity album, and you are entitled to your opinion ... For me, it's not quite as good as LP&TCWT, but, I'm pleased Keith had the courage to put something he obviously feels quite special about, and share it with "us" ... I really don't mind a bit of "mushy stuff", just to reassure me that making love songs isn't a dying art ... However, it is the more soulful, deeper, darker side of Keith's music that I'm drawn to ... I'm not sure his next album will cater for little old me though ??? Bloody hell, why not !!!

Right now, the best I can do is show my support of Keith when he heads back home to Oz - that is my focus and I'm excited ...

I hope you agree with me on that ...

Cheers Teena and thanks for your response ... Colleen  

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This article was just too much information!

    SmartMove  

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jeaneeem wrote : I'll admit that I read the 'raw and dangerous' comment a different way.  In the same breath she talks about being "very much out at see", "exposed", "could drown".  My reading was that she was talking about putting emotions on the line and taking the risk that she could be hurt again.  In my opinion, the 'raw and dangerous' is about trusting yourself to be open and that your partner won't let you 'drown'.  It's not, in my opinion about their sex life at all.

I have to agree with you here Jeaneem.  I thought the same as you on first read.  The comments made are made speaking of their new life TOGETHER.  That the darkness, danger and risk is speaking of two formerly separate people, who are now laying everything on the line including their strong emotions and love for each other, being so honest with each other that they feel they may drown in each other.  I think it's quite a beautiful way to describe feelings of love.